Monday, December 21, 2015

Mailbox Monday: On Thin Icing


Thanks for joining me for Mailbox Monday! MM was created by Marcia, who graciously hosted it for a long, long time, before turning it into a touring event. Mailbox Monday has now returned to its permanent home where you can link to your MM post.

I got one book last week, and it looks like the perfect cozy for Christmas weekend!



On Thin Icing by Ellie Alexander.  This is the latest in Alexander's Bakeshop Mystery series featuring baker sleuth Jules Capshaw.

This delightful series is set in Ashland, Oregon, home of the world renowned Shakespeare Festival. This installment finds Jules catering a winter retreat for the Festival directors, but things start to go wrong fast when she finds a dead body in the freezer.



4 Days to Christmas!




Saturday, December 19, 2015

Author Interview: Digene Farrar



Digene Farrar was in New York City to re-launch her modeling career when the first jet crashed into the World Trade Center on 9/11. As a registered nurse, her instincts and training led her to the scene to help, and she was there when the second jet hit. The horror she witnessed that day reactivated her own secret trauma of childhood sexual abuse.

Finally Facing her childhood abuse lead Digene to seek counseling and help. She now works as a public speaker, advocate for the prevention of sexual abuse, and supporter of survivors. Not My Secret to Keep is her memoir of self-discovery, healing, and transformation.

Digene recently answered questions for Rose City Reader.



How did you come to write Not My Secret to Keep?

“If there is a book you really want to read but it hasn’t been written yet, then you must write it”.
-Toni Morrison

I spent years looking for a book like this. I longed to read someone’s story that was similar to mine. I needed to understand what I was going through. I was looking for validation for my feelings and experiences. During my search for a book, I came across Toni Morrison’s quote. It inspired me to set out to write the book that I believed would truly be helpful for survivors.

Your memoir is an intensely personal account of being abused as a child and facing that trauma again. Was it difficult to tell such an intimate story?

It was difficult to tell such an intimate story but knowing the validation it could provide for others made it easier. I’ve always struggled to make sense of my experiences and in telling my story, it’s help me put this struggle to rest, knowing that I’m helping others.

Who is your intended audience and what do you hope your readers will gain from your book?

I offer this memoir to survivors -- to validate and encourage them. I offer it to their loved ones -- to help them be sensitive and supportive of the survivor. And I offer it to therapist -- to foster learning and understanding of the intricacies of the healing process.

What did you learn from writing your book – either about the subject of the book or the writing process – that most surprised you?

What I learned most from the process of writing my book is that I could let the story go and take no ownership in what happened to me, solely placing the responsibility on the abusers. The ultimate transition/gift for a survivor!

Can you recommend any other books about healing after child sexual abuse?

In the second part of my book I provide a list of recommended books that I found helpful during my healing process.

You were one of the cast in the play Telling. Explain a little about that project and what it was like to be involved in it.

Being cast in the play Telling was a life changing experience on so many levels. The amazing bond that was established among the seven of us, the survivors. The playwright Margie Boule, did an amazing job of weaving our seven different stories into one story that helps survivors break their silence, know they are not alone, encourages them to seek counseling and begin to heal. Another highlight was working under the direction of the director Jamie M. Rea, who brought a wealth of experience to helping us survivors appear comfortable telling our stories on stage. The peak experience was the opportunity to perform as part of the Shakespeare Festival in Ashland, OR. This play is an excellent resource to survivors.

What can friends and family of abuse victims do to support them?

The most valuable advice I can share in working with survivors is take the lead from (LISTEN) to the survivor.

What are you working on now? What’s next?

I’m currently working on partnering with organizations that support survivors, to distribute books to organizations to donate to survivors, staff training for organizations, advocacy work on behalf of the survivors. As well as taking advantage of any motivational speaking opportunities.

Up next, I’m working to produce the play Telling in Seattle in 2016.

THANKS, DIGENE! AND GOOD LUCK TO YOU

NOT MY SECRET TO KEEP IS AVAILABLE ON AMAZON IN KINDLE OR PAPERBACK, OR ASK YOUR LOCAL BOOKSTORE TO ORDER IT!


6 Days to Christmas!




Thursday, December 17, 2015

Book Beginning: Numbers and Nerves



THANKS FOR JOINING ME ON FRIDAYS FOR BOOK BEGINNING FUN!

Please join me every Friday to share the first sentence (or so) of the book you are reading, along with your initial thoughts about the sentence, impressions of the book, or anything else the opener inspires. Please remember to include the title of the book and the author’s name.

EARLY BIRDS & SLOWPOKES: This weekly post goes up Thursday evening for those who like to get their posts up and linked early on. But feel free to add a link all week.

FACEBOOK: Rose City Reader has a Facebook page where I post about new and favorite books, book events, and other bookish tidbits, as well as link to blog posts. I'd love a "Like" on the page! You can go to the page here to Like it. I am happy to Like you back if you have a blog or professional Facebook page, so please leave a comment with a link and I will find you.

TWITTER, ETC: If you are on Twitter, Google+, or other social media, please post using the hash tag #BookBeginnings. I try to follow all Book  Beginnings participants on whatever interweb sites you are on, so please let me know if I have missed any and I will catch up.

TIE IN: The Friday 56 hosted by Freda's Voice is a natural tie in with this event and there is a lot of cross over, so many people combine the two. The idea is to post a teaser from page 56 of the book you are reading and share a link to your post. Find details and the Linky for your Friday 56 post on Freda’s Voice.

YOUR BOOK BEGINNING



MY BOOK BEGINNING




You have in your hands a book that glides gracefully between two standpoints, logical and emotional, illuminating as it does the broad and murky territory in between.

-- from the Foreword, "Headbone and Horemone: Adventures in the Arithmetic Life" by Robert Michael Pyle to Numbers and Nerves: Information, Emotion, and Meaning in a World of Data, essays edited by Scott Slovic and Paul Slovic, published by OSU Press.

As we enter the twenty-first century, many of the important issues that occupy news headlines and capture the attention of world leaders and ordinary citizens require us to use the best available statistical information -- gallons of oil spewing into the Gulf of Mexico, numbers of fishermen put out of work by the disaster, billions of dollars made available in an effort to stem the economic damage and compensate the local residents -- to assess various situations and mitigate problems. 

-- from the editors' Introduction "The Psychophysics of Brightness and the Value of a Life."

Information presented in the form of numbers can be overwhelming, especially when we face a daily barrage of statistics, data, models, and projections.

In Numbers and Nerves, journalists, literary critics, psychologists, naturalists, activists, and others explore our cognitive response to quantitative information and offer strategies for overcoming the insensitivity to the meaning of such information.

It's a book to make you think, with a mix of essays that vary in tone between scientific to more contemplative.  Great gift idea for the big thinkers or professorial types on your holiday gift list!



8 Days to Christmas!




Tuesday, December 15, 2015

Teaser Tuesday: Portlandness



What if Portland's neighborhoods were defined by the sensory experience of living in them, like the things you can hear or smell? Most strong smells in Portland originate from particular types of pungent businesses, such as coffee roasters, breweries, bakeries, or (less pleasantly) heavy chemical industries or roof tarring.  
-- Portlandness: A Cultural Atlas by David Banis and Hunter Shobe, published by Sasquatch Books.

Portlandness is a book of "new cartography" that depicts Portland's "culturalness" through 150 infographic maps, including the one described above that maps Portland by the way neighborhoods smell. It is one of my favorite maps in the book because that hoppy brewery smell so common in Portland always reminds me of going downtown as a kid, back when the Henry Winhard brewery made most of downtown smell like that.

Authors David Banis and Hunter Shobe both work as geographers at Portland State University, studying how people connect to places and environments and how cartographers can tell stories with maps.

Here is the review from The Oregonian. Portlandness is a great mix of cartography, sociology, and graphic design.  It is definitely a good Christmas present idea for the wonkier friends and Portland lovers on your gift list.



Teaser Tuesdays is hosted by Jenn at A Daily Rhythm, where you can find the official rules for this weekly event.

10 Days to Christmas!




Monday, December 14, 2015

Mailbox Monday




Thanks for joining me for Mailbox Monday! MM was created by Marcia, who graciously hosted it for a long, long time, before turning it into a touring event. Mailbox Monday has now returned to its permanent home where you can link to your MM post.

I got one book last week, and I am really into it. I'm only reading fun, enjoyable books right now, nothing too heavy or taxing, because I am getting ready for a big sex abuse trial that starts in January and my brain does not have the capacity for anything complex.



Blood, Bones & Butter: The Inadvertent Education of a Reluctant Chef by Gabrielle Hamilton. A food memoir is perfect for me right now. I don't have time to make my traditional Christmas favorites, so listening to someone talk about food is a good substitute.

11 Days to Christmas!




Thursday, December 10, 2015

Book Beginning: Portlandness: A Cultural Atlas



THANKS FOR JOINING ME ON FRIDAYS FOR BOOK BEGINNING FUN!

Please join me every Friday to share the first sentence (or so) of the book you are reading, along with your initial thoughts about the sentence, impressions of the book, or anything else the opener inspires. Please remember to include the title of the book and the author’s name.

EARLY BIRDS & SLOWPOKES: This weekly post goes up Thursday evening for those who like to get their posts up and linked early on. But feel free to add a link all week.

FACEBOOK: Rose City Reader has a Facebook page where I post about new and favorite books, book events, and other bookish tidbits, as well as link to blog posts. I'd love a "Like" on the page! You can go to the page here to Like it. I am happy to Like you back if you have a blog or professional Facebook page, so please leave a comment with a link and I will find you.

TWITTER, ETC: If you are on Twitter, Google+, or other social media, please post using the hash tag #BookBeginnings. I try to follow all Book  Beginnings participants on whatever interweb sites you are on, so please let me know if I have missed any and I will catch up.

TIE IN: The Friday 56 hosted by Freda's Voice is a natural tie in with this event and there is a lot of cross over, so many people combine the two. The idea is to post a teaser from page 56 of the book you are reading and share a link to your post. Find details and the Linky for your Friday 56 post on Freda’s Voice.

YOUR BOOK BEGINNING



MY BOOK BEGINNING



Maps have a strong hold on people's imaginations. When presented with a map, most people take it as authority -- this is what's in this place.  
-- Portlandness: A Cultural Atlas by David Banis and Hunter Shobe, published by Sasquatch Books.

This book of "new cartography" includes 150 infographic maps of Portland and explores the "culturalness" of the city, including it quirky side, like city chickens, wild coyote encounters, fests and paloozas, strip clubs, food-truck trends, and (of course) coffee and beer. It is a great mix of cartography, sociology, and graphic design.

Authors David Banis and Hunter Shobe both work as geographers at Portland State University, studying how people connect to places and environments and how cartographers can tell stories with maps.

Here is the review from The Oregonian. Definitely a good Christmas present idea for the wonkier friends and Portland lovers on your gift list.

15 Days to Christmas!




Tuesday, December 8, 2015

Teaser Tuesday: Dear Committee Members




This letter recommends Melanie deRueda for admission to the law school on the well-heeled side of this campus. I’ve known Ms. deRueda for eleven minutes, ten of which were spent in a fruitless attempt to explain to her that I write letters of recommendation only for students who have signed up for and completed one of my classes.

-- Dear Committee Members by Julie Schumacher.

That was just one of the many lines that made me laugh in this hilarious campus novels told entirely through a series of letters of recommendation written by Jason Fitger, a professor of creative writing and literature at a small, undistinguished liberal arts college in the Midwest.

This has been on my Campus Novels list since it came out a year ago, and I am so pleased to be tearing through it.



Teaser Tuesdays is hosted by Jenn at A Daily Rhythm, where you can find the official rules for this weekly event.

17 Days to Christmas!




Monday, December 7, 2015

Mailbox Monday: Dear Committee Members




Thanks for joining me for Mailbox Monday! MM was created by Marcia, who graciously hosted it for a long, long time, before turning it into a touring event. Mailbox Monday has now returned to its permanent home where you can link to your MM post.

I got one book last week, started it, and I am enjoying to to no end!



Dear Committee Members by Julie Schumacher

Campus novels are favorites with me and this one is spot on hilarious. The whole thing is a series of letters of recommendation written by Jason Fitger, a professor of creative writing and literature at Payne University.

I added this to my Campus Novels list a while back, after hearing about it on NPR, but I just got a copy the other day when I was looking for a fun and funny book to read.

18 Days to Christmas!




Thursday, December 3, 2015

Book Beginning: The Moving Target



THANKS FOR JOINING ME ON FRIDAYS FOR BOOK BEGINNING FUN!

Please join me every Friday to share the first sentence (or so) of the book you are reading, along with your initial thoughts about the sentence, impressions of the book, or anything else the opener inspires. Please remember to include the title of the book and the author’s name.

EARLY BIRDS & SLOWPOKES: This weekly post goes up Thursday evening for those who like to get their posts up and linked early on. But feel free to add a link all week.

FACEBOOK: Rose City Reader has a Facebook page where I post about new and favorite books, book events, and other bookish tidbits, as well as link to blog posts. I'd love a "Like" on the page! You can go to the page here to Like it. I am happy to Like you back if you have a blog or professional Facebook page, so please leave a comment with a link and I will find you.

TWITTER, ETC: If you are on Twitter, Google+, or other social media, please post using the hash tag #BookBeginnings. I try to follow all Book  Beginnings participants on whatever interweb sites you are on, so please let me know if I have missed any and I will catch up.

TIE IN: The Friday 56 hosted by Freda's Voice is a natural tie in with this event and there is a lot of cross over, so many people combine the two. The idea is to post a teaser from page 56 of the book you are reading and share a link to your post. Find details and the Linky for your Friday 56 post on Freda’s Voice.

YOUR BOOK BEGINNING



MY BOOK BEGINNING



The cab turned off U.S. 101 in the direction of the sea. The road looped around the base of a brown hill into a canyon lined with scrub oak.

-- The Moving Target by Ross MacDonald (1949). This is the first book in MacDonald's Lew Archer series. I've never read any of them and its terrific. Wise cracking, post-war-noir with some really great lines.



22 Days to Christmas!




Wednesday, December 2, 2015

Author Interview: Victor Bevine


Victor Bevine is an actor, director, teacher, parkour advocate, and now the author of a new novel called Certainty. His fiction debut is a historical novel inspired by a true scandal in Newport, Rhode Island near the end of World War I, when a local Episcopal priest was accused of sexual impropriety with Navy sailors.

Victor recently answered questions for Rose City Reader.


How did you come to write Certainty?

One night about 20 years ago, while I was still deep in pursuit of a film writing and directing career, I found myself strolling down NY’s Lower Broadway in the midst of a sudden downpour. With no umbrella in hand I ducked into a gem of a bookstore, Shakespeare & Co., so-called after the famous Paris bookstore of the same name, and there I discovered the collection of essays that introduced me to the Newport Navy Vice Scandal.

My retelling of that story began as a screenplay, and when production of the film version fell apart a second time at the start of the 2008 financial crisis, I began the novel that I’d always wanted to write. Six months later the first draft of Certainty, the novel, was completed. It was not very good, still very much a screenplay minus the formatting. Two years later, after having narrated about sixty books for Audible.com, I returned to the manuscript with fresh eyes and found that, much the way a parrot learns to talk, I had more or less learned the craft of narrative fiction.

How much of your novel is based on true, historical events?

In terms of overall story, contemporary public opinion and the fallout for those involved in the Newport Navy Vice Scandal, Certainty is based very closely on actual events. The timeline has been condensed somewhat and the characters themselves, William, Kent, Charlie, Sarah, Dottie and the rest are composites of people found among the 3000 pages of trial transcripts and other source material.

How did you research the historical information and detail found in your book? Did you have access to primary source materials? People to interview?

I was very fortunate to have had access to the 3000 pages of original trial transcripts on file in the National Archives, the existence of which I discovered, along with the story itself, in an essay by Yale historian George Chauncey included in the collection, Hidden From History, Reclaiming the Gay and Lesbian Past, available on Amazon.

I also researched the Women’s Suffrage and Prohibition movements of the time, along with the history of homosexuality in the Navy and contemporaneous societal views on homosexuality in Gay New York, also by George Chauncey, a fascinating book available in bookstores and on Amazon.

Unfortunately, no one from that period remains alive, so I was not able to conduct any personal interviews.

Can you recommend any other books or resources about the Newport Navy Vice Scandal?

There is a book called Perverts by Official Order by Lawrence Murphy also available on Amazon.

What did you learn from writing your book – either about the subject of the book or the writing process – that most surprised you?

It always amazes me how the writing process and the characters themselves take on a life of their own once you’re sufficiently into the story. Whenever I felt the need to create a new scene or rewrite a section of Certainty, I simply had to put the characters into the situation, then listen and watch (with my mind’s eye) how the characters reacted to the given circumstances, and what they said about it. For me, when I’m in the zone, it’s almost like I’m a bystander, just taking dictation.

Who are your three (or four or five) favorite authors? Is your own writing influenced by who you read?

Top amongst my favorite writers are F. Scott Fitzgerald (there are several “homages” to F. Scott in Certainty…did you spot them?), Michael Cunningham, Hemingway (especially his short stories), Chekov, and of course, Shakespeare. I am, on my best days, influenced, and humbled, by all of them.

What are you reading now?

I am currently reading anything I can get my hands on about St. Paul, Google, Elon Musk and ISIS, all of whom figure prominently (though not always by name) in my next novel!

You have a terrific website, a facebook page for the book, and an active twitter feed. From an author's perspective, how important are social networking sites and other internet resources to promote your book?

Social networking of all sorts is a vital part of promoting a book these days, and I’m afraid my skills in that area fall far short. Though I am being ably assisted by the talented Tenaya Jacobson in that department, I definitely need to learn from her and get more involved.

Do you have any events coming up to promote your book?

Yes! My wonderful publicist Mary Bisbee-Beek has been helping me with that and I have an upcoming reading on December 5th at the public library in Newport, RI which of course is where the story of Certainty is set! Very excited about that! I will also be doing a reading early in 2016 at the Newark Public Library, in Newark, NJ. And Amazon UK has been promoting Certainty as a “monthly deal” in honor of WW1 “Remembrance Day” (Nov. 11th).

What is the most valuable advice you’ve been given as an author?

Three rules of writing that I try to live by, all shared with me by others along the way:

  • You sometimes have to lie to tell the truth
  • Let your writing be bad. Fix it later.
  • “The difference between the right work and the almost right word is the difference between lightning and a lightening bug” -- Samuel Clemens, aka Mark Twain.

What is the best thing about being a writer?

  • Being “in the zone” when the work seems to just flow through you.
  • The satisfaction of crafting a lyrical, clear and concise sentence, with not an ounce of fat anywhere on it.
  • Being able to justify all kinds of travel for research!

What’s next? Are you working on your next book?

I am still in the research phase of my next novel, but I feel as though I’ll begin outlining and writing soon. I know I have to write this one because it won’t leave me alone, with ideas about it popping into my head all the time. It involves many of the same underlying themes as Certainty, but on a much larger scale, and though there are numerous elements (and some characters) borrowed from history as well as modern life, it’s a wholly invented tale.

THANK YOU, VICTOR!

CERTAINTY IS AVAILABLE ONLINE AT POWELL'S, AMAZON, OR OTHERS, OR ASK YOUR LOCAL BOOKSTORE TO ORDER IT!


23 Days to Christmas!




Tuesday, December 1, 2015

Teaser Tuesday: Ancient Places



It is tempting to wonder if Ice Age floodwaters somehow contributed to such deft adaptations. The succession of floods that crashed across the Columbia Basin would have carried innumerable seeds along with the soil that was swept away.

-- Ancient Places: People and Landscape in the Emerging Northwest by Jack Nisbet, published by my favorite Sasquatch Books.

Nisbet is a historian, author and teacher focussing on the connection between human and natural history in the Pacific Northwest.  Ancient Places is a lively and engaging collection nonfiction stories about the region that is now Washington, Oregon, and Idaho.

Holiday shopping? Ancient Places would make a great choice for your Pacific Northwest friends, fans of Annie Dillard or John McPhee, or eclectic non-fiction lovers on your holiday list!


Teaser Tuesdays is hosted by Jenn at A Daily Rhythm, where you can find the official rules for this weekly event.



24 Days to Christmas!


Every year, I have a sort of blog advent calendar here on Rose City Reader, counting down to Christmas with vintage Christmas cards.

The last few years I had a theme, but this year, it is catch as catch can, like my Christmas celebration. I have a trial starting -- the biggest trial of my career -- on January 11, so Christmas is down to the bare minimum. This is a crazy turn around for someone who usually works half time in December to maximize Christmas!

Thursday, November 26, 2015

Book Beginning: Ancient Places by Jack Nisbet



THANKS FOR JOINING ME ON FRIDAYS FOR BOOK BEGINNING FUN!

Please join me every Friday to share the first sentence (or so) of the book you are reading, along with your initial thoughts about the sentence, impressions of the book, or anything else the opener inspires. Please remember to include the title of the book and the author’s name.

EARLY BIRDS & SLOWPOKES: This weekly post goes up Thursday evening for those who like to get their posts up and linked early on. But feel free to add a link all week.

FACEBOOK: Rose City Reader has a Facebook page where I post about new and favorite books, book events, and other bookish tidbits, as well as link to blog posts. I'd love a "Like" on the page! You can go to the page here to Like it. I am happy to Like you back if you have a blog or professional Facebook page, so please leave a comment with a link and I will find you.

TWITTER, ETC: If you are on Twitter, Google+, or other social media, please post using the hash tag #BookBeginnings. I try to follow all Book  Beginnings participants on whatever interweb sites you are on, so please let me know if I have missed any and I will catch up.

TIE IN: The Friday 56 hosted by Freda's Voice is a natural tie in with this event and there is a lot of cross over, so many people combine the two. The idea is to post a teaser from page 56 of the book you are reading and share a link to your post. Find details and the Linky for your Friday 56 post on Freda’s Voice.

YOUR BOOK BEGINNING



MY BOOK BEGINNING



In early November 1792, Hudson's Bay Company fur agent David Thompson led a crew of hungry men through the wilderness of lakes that exteded north and west of their York Factory headquarters on the bay.

-- Ancient Places: People and Landscape in the Emerging Northwest by Jack Nisbet, published by my favorite Sasquatch Books.

This collection of nonfiction stories explores the connection between human history and natural history in the region that is now Washington, Oregon, and Idaho. Ancient Places would make a great choice for the history or nature lover on your holiday shopping list!

HAPPY THANKSGIVING!


GOBBLE! GOBBLE!


Wednesday, November 25, 2015

Author Interview: Carolee Horning


Carolee Horning is an inspirational and now-fearless woman who broke decades of silence about how her Catholic priest seduced and sexually molested her when she was an immature teenager. When she was 40, she came forward to bring a claim against the Portland Archdiocese and tell the world about her experience.



The Journal of my Broken Life is Carolee's first-person account of her abuse, her lawsuit, and her path from victim to survivor. It is an honest, straight-from-the-heart, and ultimately uplifting story that deserves a wide audience.

Carolee recently answered questions for Rose City Reader:

How did you come to write The Journal of My Broken Life?

I was preparing for my deposition in my case against the Archdiocese of Portland and was struggling with memories, dates, and sequences of events. I had always kept a journal, and my therapist recommended writing and going through my past entries to help me center myself and anticipate questions and answers for my part of the deposition. Once I completed the deposition, I found myself still writing and journaling. My therapist commented that it could be very healing for not only myself but for others if I made it into a book. And so, I did!

Your memoir is an intensely personal account of being abused by your Catholic priest. Was it difficult to tell such an intimate story?

In some ways it was difficult, but in other ways it was freeing. It was healing. As the words hit the page, the burden of carrying all that pain for so long seemed to ease. I had been keeping secrets my entire life up to that point, so it felt liberating to share it all - the light and the dark, the painful and the intimate.

Who is your intended audience and what do you hope your readers will gain from your book?

My intended audience is fellow survivors of childhood sexual abuse, as well as parents and the general public. One out of three girls and one out of five boys will suffer from childhood sexual abuse. I’m hoping that my book will help shed light on this epidemic, enlighten people regarding prevention measures, and that fellow victims and survivors will learn and understand what happened to them was not their fault, and that they are not alone. Parents will be aware of the grooming techniques that predators use, and learn to NEVER leave their child alone with another adult, even if it is one they think they can trust.

You were one of the cast in the play Telling. Explain a little about that project and what it was like to be involved in it.

Telling is a play written by Margie Boule. Over several months time she interviewed seven survivors of childhood sexual abuse, me included. She then took our true accounts and wove them into a beautiful tapestry, along with personal images, songs, and other artistic pieces that resulted in the play, Telling, Adult Survivors Step Into The Light.

Being in this play changed my life. It inspired me to change my profession and I am now in graduate school to become a licensed therapist. The cast mates are more than my friends -- they are my brothers and sisters. The unconditional love I have received and given to them feels like what heaven must be like. We completely understand one another, love each other, comfort one another, and make each other stronger. And we have been able to reach out to other victims and survivors to inspire them and show them that they are not alone. Our play also helped to educate the audience on what the face of a survivor looks like, what a predator looks like, and how this epidemic persists. We shine light into the dark places of abuse! I can only hope that we are able to present Telling to more and more audiences because I think it’s a wonderful tool of love, encouragement, and education.

Can you recommend any other books about healing after child sexual abuse? Are any of them personal account like yours?

I was in Telling with Digene Farrar and she has written her personal account of sexual abuse entitled, Not My Secret To Keep.  She is a real survivor, and an inspiration!

What can friends and family of abuse victims do to support them?

I would not be as healed as I am today without the loving support of my family. They have been unconditional when it has come to my journey, letting me heal the way I needed to heal. I’m sure parts of my book were hurtful for them, but they did nothing but encourage me. They are proud of me. When I first told my family, they were accepting. We’ve always been close, but I had put up walls. Now, all that made sense to them. I would say the most important thing you can do for your loved one when they tell you they’ve been abused is to listen to them with an open mind and an open heart, look deep inside yourself and you will know you are hearing the truth, love them unconditionally, and do whatever it is THEY need to heal. It’s not about you, at that point. It’s about the victim. It’s not about pride or shame or guilt. It’s just about healing.

What’s next? What are you working on now?

As I mentioned earlier, I changed my entire world around and am now in the Mental Health Counseling Graduate Program at Northwest Christian University in Eugene, Oregon. When performing in Telling, I learned how much good therapists are needed. Unfortunately, there are a lot of “technicians,” out there, and they are not necessarily “healers.” I want to be a healer, like my therapist was for me. I want to work with other adults that suffered abuse as a child. I want to give purpose and meaning to my own story by helping someone else along their healing journey.

THANKS, CAROLEE! AND GOOD LUCK WITH YOUR STUDIES!

THE JOURNAL OF MY BROKEN LIFE IS AVAILABLE IN PAPERBACK OR KINDLE.

AND YOU CAN FOLLOW CAROLEE'S BLOG ON GOODREADS.


Monday, November 23, 2015

Mailbox Monday: Numbers and Nerves



Thanks for joining me for Mailbox Monday! MM was created by Marcia, who graciously hosted it for a long, long time, before turning it into a touring event. Mailbox Monday has now returned to its permanent home where you can link to your MM post.

I got one book last week, and it has me intrigued:



Numbers and Nerves: Information, Emotion, and Meaning in a World of Data, edited by Scott Slovic and Paul Slovic, published by OSU Press. This is a collection of essays and interviews that examines how we are deluged with facts, statistics, models, and projections to the point of desensitization to information presented in the form of numbers.

The journalists, literary critics, psychologists, naturalists, activists, and others who contributed to the book explore this quandary and offer strategies for overcoming the insensitivity.

OK, I'll admit it sounds pretty abstract and not what I'd pick up after a long day at work. But when I think about it, it does sound very interesting and I'd like to learn more. And it includes an essay by Annie Dillard!

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